as a heterosexual man (i know), insights & expressions like this are exactly what i need to hear in order to further understand the consequences of patriarchal behaviors and learn how to dismantle them from within. i really appreciate everything you do, thank you for your writings
Thank you for writing and saying so. I want to reiterate: nothing wrong with being a heterosexual man! I love men! ALL humans in a neoliberal patriarchy are subjugated by it in some way or another. I feel like we're all on this journey together, though we might suffer from its effects differently.
“It is for me to be everything and nothing, to contend with the expectation to cultivate care and interconnectedness in a system designed against me having the energy to do so.” 😮💨 Felt this so damn deeply. Thank you, as always.
Anna, this is Anna. Thanks for writing, it really means a lot.
And Samantha, this was the quote that I leaned towards, too. Feeling WORN. OUT. Tonight.
I recently quit nursing, which felt like an impossible expectation to care in a system designed against so many things.
I'm also a woman partnered to a man. We split up last year because I would not would not would not stay in my position of subjugation any longer. Realized that it wasn't my partnership with him that prevented me from standing up. Realized that how I learned to be a girl and then a woman-- taking care of everyone before taking care of myself-- that prevented that. Anyway, we got back together 10 months later.
I'm relishing this from Anna's relationship Q+A:
"3. Otherwise, I think the reason a lot of couples use to break up are illusions. Our ego tricks us into thinking we would be emotionally safer or feel more seen with someone else. We fall for the idea that there’s something better. Or we think that what we are up against with another person is too hard/too much, when really we are just up against ourselves and will continue to be with every new person we meet."
as a heterosexual man (i know), insights & expressions like this are exactly what i need to hear in order to further understand the consequences of patriarchal behaviors and learn how to dismantle them from within. i really appreciate everything you do, thank you for your writings
Thank you for writing and saying so. I want to reiterate: nothing wrong with being a heterosexual man! I love men! ALL humans in a neoliberal patriarchy are subjugated by it in some way or another. I feel like we're all on this journey together, though we might suffer from its effects differently.
“It is for me to be everything and nothing, to contend with the expectation to cultivate care and interconnectedness in a system designed against me having the energy to do so.” 😮💨 Felt this so damn deeply. Thank you, as always.
Anna, this is Anna. Thanks for writing, it really means a lot.
And Samantha, this was the quote that I leaned towards, too. Feeling WORN. OUT. Tonight.
I recently quit nursing, which felt like an impossible expectation to care in a system designed against so many things.
I'm also a woman partnered to a man. We split up last year because I would not would not would not stay in my position of subjugation any longer. Realized that it wasn't my partnership with him that prevented me from standing up. Realized that how I learned to be a girl and then a woman-- taking care of everyone before taking care of myself-- that prevented that. Anyway, we got back together 10 months later.
I'm relishing this from Anna's relationship Q+A:
"3. Otherwise, I think the reason a lot of couples use to break up are illusions. Our ego tricks us into thinking we would be emotionally safer or feel more seen with someone else. We fall for the idea that there’s something better. Or we think that what we are up against with another person is too hard/too much, when really we are just up against ourselves and will continue to be with every new person we meet."
UGH. Yes.
Love love love this, Anna!
this is exactly what I needed to read right now at this moment. Thank you