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Your choice to share whatever parts of you you choose to share is a gift. Your choice to honor what is wanting to be given to us through you is a gift. Your choice to respect the integrity of others while not going against your own is a gift. Your choice to listen to what is asking to be explored through your words and art is a gift. Your choice to notice the tug to backtrack, and to offer yourself compassion for the places *you* are in and the things *you* are here to share is a gift. So thank you for offering it openly, with the awareness and intention you do -- and for giving yourself permission to change your mind in any moment you need to. Here for all of it.

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As someone who really loves Marlee’s writing, and fully chooses them as a writer meaning like, “I’m in whatever you explore”, I was also simultaneously actually so sad to see their retirement about writing about love because it has taught me so much about love. And I was also like, completely understand and wow must have been so intense. I have a smaller following than both of you as a writer, and still, I have also found myself in both positions. At some point I had to stop writing about love publicly for the exact reasons Mar said they have to. And I also have had seasons where thank god I wrote about love because it healed me, it healed others, and it was the only way for me to digest life properly. I think it’s so wise to all make our own decisions based on our own seasons and our own current contexts, even if they are different than each other’s. So thank you for highlighting this and thank you for posting this here because I have been deactivated from Instagram for 4 months now! & of course, All this to say, Thank you for teaching more about myself through your writing, Anna! It is highly valued over here. ❤️

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"I am not retiring from writing about love. I will write about love because love is my truth. Love is what I know, and it’s what I’m learning. I will not write about love vaguely. I will not remove myself from love."

DING DING DING

May we switch back and forth forever til we die xoxo

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I love that Mar is retiring love from their job description and I loved, LOVED, this and your instagram. I know that exact feeling when someone makes the complete opposite decision as you did out of their integrity and you're like fuck, lol, we're not doing that thing anymore and I'm so glad that you got to the part where you're totally different people and this is where you are and this is where they are and and and and. Anyway, this was just important. Thanks for as always being vulnerable and truthful and perfect. x

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It’s interesting, and I’m glad I’m not alone, how whenever I see someone I admire, or even just someone else, do something contrary to me I automatically assume I’ve done something wrong and they’ve done it right. But really, as someone who reads both yours and Marlee’s newsletters, I can’t help but be grateful for both perspectives and honesty and honoring of self in its many phases of transition. We need someone to write about love, because mannn, we are all aching for it and over it and with it, and it’s nice to see someone not write about love and keep some privacy. It makes me to start to look at “us” more collectively, how we all contribute in myriad ways to the discourse on being, but can only do so wholeheartedly when we really honor where we’re at and what we wanna do with that. Thanks for sharing, I find so much resonance in your writing and it’s really helpful to my own process, as is the case with Marlee. Y’all rule.

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Jan 13, 2023Liked by Anna Fusco

Thank you for this! I do have a question. Of course, so many people do not want the marriage/kids track. In the absence of this track, do you have an alternative “trajectory” of some sort in your mind that structures your vision of the future together? Or are you able to fully embody a day-by-day mentality in relationship?

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